Help Children Deal With School AnxietyGale Glassner Twersky
– written by Gale Glassner Twersky, A.C.H,
Among the most difficult stresses we as adults suffer is when our children suffer. Whether they are your children, nieces, nephews, grandchildren or any children you care about, it’s so heartbreaking to see them demonstrate physical aches, pains, nausea, headaches, and stomachaches due to their anxiety. We feel so powerless to help our children face their fears and release them. As schools have opened their arms at the end of summer to once again embrace our students, many of us at home have thrown up our arms in prayer that our kids won’t resist going to school or literally end up sick to avoid it.
Allow me be of service here. First of all, recognize that going to school represents threats on many different levels. One is the fear of the unknown. That can be terrifying; we adults have big issues with that issue ourselves. Second, truth is, bad things can happen in school. Kids can be teased or bullied. Kids may feel times of embarrassment. Kids may feel attacks on their self-esteem just because they didn’t make the reading group everyone knew was for the smartest kids, or perhaps they didn’t make the honors class they wanted to be in. Just think back to your own not-so-pleasant experiences in school and you’ll know there is some substance to their concerns. Think of the pressure either intentionally or unintentionally on our children for high achievement. Is it any wonder that they “could” feel great distress facing a school day? Notice, “could” implies not every child feels or reacts this way but it’s certainly understandable why some do react in fear.
Whereas some children purposely “fake” a stomachache or sore throat, others really do experience illness because their subconscious has chosen to help them out of their perceived scary experience in that exact way. If in the child’s past experience, he/she really had an illness that saved him/her from facing a test or speech or an incomplete for homework, it’s very probable that the child’s subconscious noted the child’s relief. Thus, the subconscious, attempting to help on its own without the child’s conscious awareness, could have chosen the habit of “getting sick” to avoid something the child dreads. The illness can be real since the mind and body operate together to create one’s physical reality. Alas, try as fervently as you may to convince the child that there is nothing to fear, you are fighting a difficult to remove, subconsciously held habit.
The good news is that there is an effective, non-invasive, time efficient, cost effective and AMA approved modality that has a very good, proven success rate of helping children (as well as adults) release the subconsciously held fears. If the aches and pains that the child presents have resulted from subconscious fears, then those physical manifestations of the fears can also be released. The modality of choice is hypnosis that employs hypnotic guided imagery facilitated by a HypnoCounselor or hypnotherapist. Sometimes you just have to think outside the box. That said, in reality, hypnosis has already entered the mainstream. Welcome aboard.