Why Are People So Obstinate and Disagreeable?Gale Glassner Twersky
People are so obstinate and disagreeable because their subconscious programming is directing them to do so. It is likely because of Faulty Subconscious Programming that was downloaded without the person’s awareness or permission. The subconscious makes decisions that are meant to make you feel better physically, mentally, emotionally and/or spiritually. It also makes choices for you that serve to protect you from harm or feeling badly about yourself. The problem is that your subconscious can make mistakes and thus can leave you with programming that makes you think, feel and behave in ways that actually sabotage you. The obstinate and disagreeable person for instance, may feel like he is acting like someone whom he admired, like his dad. And that makes him feel good and powerful like he perceived his dad was. It makes no difference to him if people dislike him or object to him; his subconscious programming automatically keeps initiating his same behaviors.
Another example may be when a person refuses to compromise in business by remaining obstinate and disagreeable. If she won the argument or gained the best deal, then her subconscious would notice that this behavior resulted in her feeling really good about herself. Then her subconscious would program her to continue being that obstinate and disagreeable self in all similar and even vaguely similar situations. These attitudes and behaviors, just like for the man in the first example, would continue automatically being promoted and defended by her subconscious without her knowledge or permission.
How can people like that change these self-destructive behaviors? It only changes when people recognize and believe that they can change and moreover, believe that change would make them feel so much better than they did before when acting obstinate and disagreeable. Sometimes it takes some extremely painful situations for people to be awakened to the reality of how others are perceiving and reacting to them. Unfortunately, there are cases where a person never recognizes he can change and reprogram his subconscious, or he does not have the inner strength and other people’s assistance to help him to make those changes in his subconscious programming.
One of the reasons I wrote the book, Reprogram Your Subconscious: How to Use Hypnosis to Get What You Really Want, was to inform and enable people to understand themselves by understanding their subconscious mind that molded them. The book explains in great detail how to communicate instructions to eliminate/delete Faulty Subconscious Programs and then allow for the downloading of positive, replacement subconscious programs. It is possible that those obstinate, disagreeable people you know would find this book quite life-changing for them. It is all about how to get what you really want. That could apply to everyone, even the most obstinate and disagreeable.